Living Well In Yalobusha County

Why Premarital Counseling Makes A Difference

By Pamela Redwine


Join us on Thursday, April 11, for our second Crochet Class. This is a beginner crochet class. and will be held from 1:30 to 3:30 p.m. The class is free, but you will need to bring a roll of yarn and a crochet needle.
The Healthy You Exercise class meets on Monday, Wednesday, and Friday.   Wear cool clothes, comfortable shoes and bring some water to drink.
The United Y.C. MHV Club will meet on Tuesday, April 16. Their business meeting will be at 9 a.m. and their educational program will be at 10 a.m. Mr. Brent Gray will be the speaker and will be discussing Knock-out Roses and Weeds. This program is free and open to the public. We hope you will join us.
The 4-H Clover Buds for ages 5-9 will be meeting on Thursday, April 18 at 4 p.m.  This program is free and open to all children ages 5-9.  Please call 675-2730 to reserve your child’s spot.
Don’t forget to like us on Facebook at MSU- Yalo-busha County Extension Service to keep up with our upcoming events.
Why Premarital Counseling Makes a Difference
Did you know that every 45 seconds in the United States a family is torn apart by divorce?  And that divorce costs U.S. taxpayers $112 billion each year. It also brings emotional devastation to all parties involved, especially children.    
However, there are programs in place that can help reduce the rate of divorce. One of these is pre-marital counseling. In 2006, Scott Stanley and colleagues conducted a study on a large sample of people and found that couples who participated in premarital counseling tend to have higher levels of satisfaction and commitment in marriage.
There are hundreds of programs that are available for premarital counseling, and couples should decide which avenue/program meets their relationship goals and needs. These programs are generally offered through churches, open to members/nonmembers, or through local counseling services and online.
Most churches require couples to participate in premarital counseling before they are allowed to marry.  Churches vary in the depth of topics covered and the length of counseling. Furthermore, some churches reserve counseling services and weddings for members; however, other churches are more open to serving nonmembers.
Premarital counseling is important because it provides couples with an opportunity to troubleshoot and create a plan for handling issues that all marriages face. It gives couples a more realistic view of what marriage entails and an opportunity to share marital expectations.  What is universal to all types of success is that it takes hard work–success is a planned process.
Oftentimes, people view love as a spontaneous entity that should require work; however, the opposite is true. Truly successful marriages require preparation, planning, and work.  If all of these factors are put into practice before the marriage starts, it will put couples on the right path toward a loving and enduring marriage.
One of the unfortunate aspects about premarital counseling is that many couples view the experience as just one thing to cross off the list before heading down the aisle.  Many couples wait to schedule premarital counseling after the wedding facility has been booked and wedding attire purchased.  It is important for couples who are thinking about marriage to consider premarital/pre-engagement counseling well before the wedding details are solidified.  This will provide an opportunity to consider objectively whether or not the couple is ready and willing to take the relationship to the next level.
Article Source: Dr. Cassandra Kirkland, MSU-ES Specialist

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